Purim, a Jewish Spring Time Festival

"The joy of Purim demonstrates Israel’s eternal holiness." --unknown Rabbi

For Jews world-wide the upcoming festival of Purim celebrates the ancient Persian Jews deliverance from the wicked Haman. While the festival is ancient, it is little known outside of Jewish circles.
Esther, a Jewess and Queen in the ancient world, is credited for saving the lives of thousands of others. This joyous festival takes place in the early spring months and is determined each year by the moon as to its exact calendar date. In the Jewish calendar it occurs on the 14th of Adar. It will begin this year on March 15 of the Roman calendar..

We find details of the Purim story in an ancient text known as the Megillah. Esther becomes the Queen consort to the Persian king, Ahasuerus, in a tribute to her brother, Mordecai, who once saved the king's life.
In her day Esther was considered very beautiful. After the death of the king's first wife, Vashti, she is selected from among hundreds to be his consort.

The courtier Haman is charged with the responsibility of apprehending and executing those responsible for the foiled threat to the king. Instead he decides that there is an opportunity to exterminate the Jews in the Kingdom. Unaware that Esther is a Jewess, he launches his plan. Meanwhile Esther reveals to the king, her husband, that she is Jewish and that Haman plots to kill all Jews in the Kingdom of Persia. The king apprehends Haman and hangs him, thereby saving thousands. For this, the festival is celebrated with much joy.

The day includes the reading of the scroll of Esther, the blotting of Haman's name, games, merriment and a Purim meal which includes sweets and other delicacies. Also on this occasion giving to the poor and other charities is highly encouraged.

Several Jewish denominations have web pages with Purim themed information:

http://www.aish.com/h/pur/

http://www.uscj.org/JewishLivingandLearning/ShabbatandHolidayInformation/Holidays/JewishHolidays/Purim/default.aspx

http://www.reformjudaism.org/jewish-holidays/purim

True Love From the False

"Love gives itself; it isn't bought." Henry W. Longfellow

As we move through our lives, one hears and learns by experience a simple truth as the poet, Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote. Love is free, it cannot be bought or coerced. Nor can it be captured or restrained, like a pet canary, adored in a golden cage.
Loving persons come together by desire, by free will, in giving. Lovers cannot be used, one blind to the motives of another. 'Love,' as the Bible tells us, 'sees all, knows all, tolerates, is patient and forgives'. In the book of Corinthians it is written:

"If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal."

The conclusion of this passage is also simple enough:

"For now we see in a mirror dimly, then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. But now-- faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love." --1Corinthians-NSB translation

For those whose life experience has been without the experience of love's purity, innocence, freedom, or patience, the foundation of relationship as adults may easily turn to an experience in which there is a transaction of "confusion between winners and losers in a game of competing needs," writes Deepak Chopra in his book, The Path to Love.
 Instead of weaving together in friendship, in desire, in love, individuals concentrate on what will benefit me. "How many couples bond by forming a "we" that is just a stronger, tougher version of "me"? muses Chopra.

"Undoubtedly," he continues,  "mutual ego needs have a place in every relationship... however when they obliterate the tender growth and life of love in the Spirit," love is replaced with something that is false. He notes that "acquiring an ally to fulfill them [needs] isn't the same as getting free from them. 
Only love can free us."
"The reason that ego and love are not compatible comes down to this: you cannot take your ego into the unknown, where love wants to lead. Ego craves control, certainty, and power alone. As practitioners on the Way, looking carefully, we see this is false notion. By life experience, we have found that the world is not static, it is not every man an island. Rather the world is as the Buddha preached: a world of change, impermanence; a world that survives because of the inter-being of all. One depends upon another.

Think about your morning habits, for example. The dwelling you awoke in was quite possibly built by another, the electricity you used was wired and made safe for you by others. The food you eat was grown and delivered by others; the water you drink, and the road you travel-- all made safe by others. A truth of love versus ego, then, is that "Uncertainty is the basis of life," writes Chopra.
And inter-being is the way.
Allow yourself what you deeply desire.  In love, in spirit, there are no ulterior motives. While acknowledging another's needs or wants, "Spirit neither takes responsibility for that need nor opposes it." In this way, the person and their love is seen as real, because whatever your true need is, is your reality.